1 /5 Nicole Paulson: I used Rory Flay back in spring and early summer of 2024. Among the multiple things that were botched (including a breach of my confidentiality on several occasions) he assisted my ex in facilitating refinancing a car.
This vehicle was in my former spouse’s name only, but another court had given me permission because it was my work vehicle to drive it, and it was supposed to be sorted out in the divorce, not the temporary orders.
I tried to tell him that this didn’t seem like a good idea and I didn’t understand why he would refinance it and not give me the title since it is my work vehicle. Mr. Flay assured me that this could be a good thing but because of his lack in working with domestic violence survivors, and personality disorders he not only went against a court order, but he severely misadvised me during a time of trauma and turmoil. I paid top dollar at McKinley Irvin for a good lawyer. His mishandling of my case literally took food out of my children’s mouths. I also gave this person an opportunity to even apologize or tell me what happened so that I could understand.
Overall, he had absolutely no strategy to protect our family. I am now finding out before we finalize our divorce that my spouse actually refinanced it to another company, I had no access to that company to even pay it. Furthermore, instead of the payment being $300 or so a month he refinanced it to be $900 monthly, on purpose. Financial abuse was at the forefront of this whole entire case and Mr. Flay completely dropped the ball on this.
I had no way to pay it or to find out who it was financed through because he was not thorough or strategic and his work.
I would avoid him if your case involves Domestic violence, complicated cases, and cases where you need to trust someone with strategic legal experience.
I would not trust this person to protect your family or to look out for your best interests. I went back-and-forth about a bar report because I know how damaging that can be to someone’s career and that is so much work after I am already rebuilding my life. I don’t know how many bloopers I need to let go for all of the money that I lost.
McKinley Irvin does a great blog post on how to do the exact opposite that this lawyer did. No assets during the separation process should be refinanced without permission of both parties, but most importantly, without any input or seeing any of the refinanced paperwork I had no idea what was going on. I’m not sure if this man is an adult that knows how to pay bills, or what is going on. He did not even make sure that I had a way to pay the bill or find out who it was financed through; due to an no contact order he should have assisted in facilitating this if he was so eager to help my spouse.
He abandoned my case in mid May. I no longer have any remorse.